The Farm Report

Category: Shep

  • One order of boring, please

    It's been a long day.

    Shep started doing this funny half-yawn thing yesterday. By this morning it had evolved into a full-blown facial tic, with his eyes squinting shut and his mouth popping open. He's doing it on a pretty continual basis, every 10-20 seconds or so. It was weird enough that Tom and I packed him up and headed to Children's. No need to mess around with the pediatrician, who would inevitably send us to the next level for evaluation.

    Long story short, after three hours in a very small room, they've given him the diagnosis of transient tic disorder. This seems to mean that he developed some tic, they don't really know why, but they're fairly certain it will go away in the next month or so.

    We have a follow-up appointment with a neurologist, which is good. I want someone who spends his whole day looking at kids with these same things to look at Shep and say, "Yup…that's what it is. He'll be fine." We've had a handful of friends with bigger issues, and it reminds me not to be complacent when it comes to my child's health and well-being.

    It's hard to look at his little face contorting and moving without his initiating it. It's that helpless feeling you have as a parent. I just want to reach into his head and hit the off switch on whatever neurons are misfiring. The upside is that he doesn't seem to know he's doing it, it doesn't seem to happen when he eats and sleeps, and it doesn't seem to bother him.

    I know this seems all gloomy and glass half-empty. It's really not. The prognosis seems just fine at the moment. It's just…ugh. I just want him to be back to normal so I can stop fretting.

  • Day on the farm

    Day on the farm

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    Shep's class went on a field trip today. Susie and I left Alex and Ellery with Papa Joe so our boys could have our full attention for a change.

    Although it was freezing, we had a great time petting animals and being "little farmers".

    I probably could have spent an hour taking pictures of the old farm equipment and tools. I've already located that old egg scale on ebay…

  • A boy and his Kitchen-Aid

    A boy and his Kitchen-Aid

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    A few weeks back, I blogged about Neko helping me make apple sauce by using my new Kitchen-Aid attachment. Today I put Shep to work, and he helped me start tomato sauce by running the tomatoes through.

    Now, I think Neko enjoyed herself. But Shep? He was downright giddy.

    As he worked, he was singing a little song to himself about being the best tomato squasher ever. "I am doing a great job!" he would declare. That kid sang his way through 20 pounds of tomatoes.

    Tom loves to cook, and I see Shep might be following in his footsteps.

  • Illness

    Shep has a cold, so I spent the whole day catering to the whims of a cranky and indecisive 3-year-old.

    I have some ideas for the government if they need some techniques for their torture and interrogation department. I mean, not that, our country would ever think of participating in such acts. But, you know, just in case they did, I think a big army of sick three-year-olds could get them pretty far.

  • Steel drum band

    Steel drum band

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    Shep keeps digging out the mixing bowls. Yesterday he was all about walking around the house with a bowl on his head. And then he spent a long time flipping it upside down and standing on it like he was king of the mountain.

    Today it took a twist down the musical road. He gathered together a set of three different sized bowls. He then requested a metal spoon from on the counter, gathered two different spoons from the silverware drawer, and got to work.

    After about ten minutes of banging and clanging he had them lined up in order of size. When someone knocked them out of order, he furrowed his brow and put them back in order. He would play the notes in one direction and smile. And then do the reverse, and say, "Backwards!"

    It's clear to me the music collection around here is only going to get bigger.

  • Two turtles walk into a bar…

    Two turtles walk into a bar…

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    …well, actually into my bedroom. At 7:30am, two kids in turtle costumes. Which made me laugh so hard I almost cried.

    Not properly captured in full cuteness here, but you're going to have to trust me. It was hilarious.

  • Best Word Book Ever

    Best Word Book Ever

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    Today Susie mentioned to me that Chris was really into Richard Scarry's Best Word Book Ever. This was a big favorite in our house growing up, so much that Susie often slept with a dog-eared copy. I had kind of forgotten about it, so I brought it out for quiet time to read to Shep.

    I read him the first few pages and then told him he could hang onto it and look though the pictures during quiet time. Some time later he started calling for me rather insistently, and when I arrived, he pointed to lower corner of the grocery store spread. "Look! It's JAM." It was as if he had just discovered buried treasure in that jar of jam.

    I should have know my foodie would find that page the most fascinating. Big thanks to Susie for getting a classic back in circulation.

    Basket, Day 3:
    When that fundraising thing was held at our house back in May, someone brought over a huge cooler to hold drinks. There were leftover drinks in there they told us to keep, and we could just return the cooler when we unloaded it. I'm embarrassed to say, months later, the cooler is still sitting on the patio. UNTIL YESTERDAY! I emptied, scrubbed, and sanitized and returned that sucker. And that's even bigger than a basket!

  • Introducing…Shep!

    Introducing…Shep!

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    A funny thing happened today—I had a conversation with Shep. He found the books of patterned paper, and set out on a long project that involved a whole lot of cutting and mess-making. For nearly half and hour he sat at the counter and he cut and talked and there was meaning and a somewhat logical flow.

    I can't imagine this would have played out as it did if Neko had been in the room. I love her with all my heart, and the absence of her loud, boisterous, directive personality has left a big gaping hole in our day. But in little ways, I think we'll slowly be able to fill in the gaps, and fill them in ways that make each of us grow.

  • First Day of School: Boo!

    First Day of School: Boo!

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    Okay, so the kids did great with the first day of school.

    I was doing really well, too. Got coffee, went for a long walk with Ellery. Laughed, chatted, and relaxed a bit. Then I arrived home at noon with Shep and Ellery for lunch. I rounded the corner from the mudroom and found myself staring at these two stools at the counter. And I burst into tears.

    These are the two stools where Neko and Shep have eaten lunch, side by side, for nearly two years. Sitting next to one another they laughed and bickered and ate and sang. And suddenly, as I rounded that corner, I realized, on most days, there would be an empty seat at the counter.

    I know everyone is where they need to be. Neko needs more than just I can give her right now. She needs friends outside our home and bigger experiences. Shep needs a chance to be the big kid, to direct the play and hone his independence. Ellery needs a chance to not get lost in the shuffle. And me? I need to begin to reclaim some of my own self, which has been tucked in the box of mommyhood for quite some time.

    These are good changes, but difficult, and somewhat heartbreaking nonetheless.

  • First Day of School: Hooray!

    First Day of School: Hooray!

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    How did it get to be August 26th? I swear, this summer just flew right by.

    But here we are on the first day of school. It's probably best that we've been so busy, as it's given me little time to get all sloppy and sentimental, which I'm prone to do. But ready or not, off we went.

    Neko was first, so we walked in together to her class. Her teacher has been outstanding this summer, writing letters and arranging play days, so it's not like she was being dropped into a new environment. Still, I was a little worried her last-minute jitters might turn into a full-blown attack of anxiety. But they didn't. She put away her lunch box and backpack and settled right into her groove. We got a hug and a kiss, and she was on her way.

    Shep practically leapt out of the car when we arrived at his school. Seriously, we unbuckled him and he began a sprint to the door like I haven't seen before. We had to call him back to capture a few photos.

    At the end of the day, everyone was tired and happy and eager to return, which I happily declare a successful day.